Confession, I over-think the shit out of everything. I am a Sagittarius, so that kind of comes with the territory.
But hear me out, I am talking about overthinking texts messages (re-reading them constantly and trying to see the subliminal subtexts and undertones), looking at emails, sent and received and just making sure that I was clear.
It’s hilarious, overthinking what I will wear, which is why I prefer to just wear a hoodie, T-shirt, jeans and sneakers. I might throw on the blazer so people don’t think I am completely ratchet, Ha!
But I mean this over-thinking can work in my favor sometimes, because it makes me really think things through and be prepared for most everything that occurs, until some shit goes down that I didn’t think of. Or I actually thought of it, but I didn’t think I had the possibility of it happening. lol!
So how do I handle my overthinking without making people think I am crazy? Umm, haven’t mastered that yet, because I am human and the reality is, I just want to manage it better.
The other day I was having a glass of wine with a friend, and she and I were mentally sparring. We were on a roll, until I said something that was a product of my overthinking. She stopped and said, “I don’t know where you got that U. I have never implied that thought ever, and that’s some overthinking happening over there in your head.”
I was called out!
So I had to think, that I overthink a lot.
So everything, I mean everyone used to tell me, “U, you need to learn how to spend time by yourself and get comfortable with you.” They felt I was exuding behavior of neediness, which also means, after they gotten what they need from my interactions, they wanted me to vanish, in love, but still vanish.
What that did for me is to make me face the fears of being alone: face them so good that I literally started to prefer to be alone more than with other folks, to the point where people are now like, “you need to let people in, and not be so much of an introvert/loner. You won't accomplish everything alone.”
Don’t you love how people change like the wind? Ha!
What made me grow comfortable with being alone, was that I started being self critical so I could do the work on becoming a better person, and present in the moment.
Then of course to really fully re-live the moment, I invite the overthinking part of me back to the table to question everything that happened. Jk!
Shout out to the fellow over-thinkers out there; may we give our brains an occasional rest from time to time.